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I have an understanding of the online dating world that I haven't found anywhere else and am looking for help in getting it off the ground. You can read about it here: itsadealmaker.com/about
My goal with this dating website is to solve the logistical fog that comes with meeting someone new. I accomplish this by making wants and expectations clear with both parties. What makes wants important? If 2 people have great chemistry but one wants kids and the other doesn't then the only thing that chemistry serves is how hard of a break up it will be. Maybe they will even get married but eventually the wanting/not wanting kids will be a deal breaker. This philosophy works on the small scale as well as the large scale. It might make new relationships a little less exciting but the group with by far the highest marriage satisfaction rate is arranged marriages.
If expectations are clear and both sides know what is expected from them, what to do and what not to do, the set structure and boundaries are ironically more freeing leading to more risk taking, fun, and honesty. These awkward questions that arise from not knowing what the other person wants or expects (like paying the bill, limits of touching on the first date) these unknowns create a fog on the actual dates.
The way many people try to instinctively achieve structure is by being friends first, but all this does is set up both parties for a gamble in losing a friend. People simply don't know how to do it. This is why such things as the friend zone have become social issues, usually with the man feeling stuck waiting and the woman feeling used and betrayed by a friend.
We have many technologies that make our lives more efficient. Let’s not make dating exempt from that. For better or worse we do have our own unique ideas and wants in today's age but we must be able to find those other like minded people. In transition times things are more complicated before they become a simple structure to navigate.
My goal with this dating website is to solve the logistical fog that comes with meeting someone new. I accomplish this by making wants and expectations clear with both parties. What makes wants important? If 2 people have great chemistry but one wants kids and the other doesn't then the only thing that chemistry serves is how hard of a break up it will be. Maybe they will even get married but eventually the wanting/not wanting kids will be a deal breaker. This philosophy works on the small scale as well as the large scale. It might make new relationships a little less exciting but the group with by far the highest marriage satisfaction rate is arranged marriages.
If expectations are clear and both sides know what is expected from them, what to do and what not to do, the set structure and boundaries are ironically more freeing leading to more risk taking, fun, and honesty. These awkward questions that arise from not knowing what the other person wants or expects (like paying the bill, limits of touching on the first date) these unknowns create a fog on the actual dates.
The way many people try to instinctively achieve structure is by being friends first, but all this does is set up both parties for a gamble in losing a friend. People simply don't know how to do it. This is why such things as the friend zone have become social issues, usually with the man feeling stuck waiting and the woman feeling used and betrayed by a friend.
We have many technologies that make our lives more efficient. Let’s not make dating exempt from that. For better or worse we do have our own unique ideas and wants in today's age but we must be able to find those other like minded people. In transition times things are more complicated before they become a simple structure to navigate.
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John Byrne
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